Child Rearing

[CSwriter1]

This subject is way to big! Until about age 8 we absorb knowledge like sponges. Literally our brains change around age 8. The insulation on our brian wiring is completed, and this forms a barrier to our learning. It also results in a subconscious. From this point on we become judgemental, and aware of what we learn, and we live to prove ourselves right. Unfortunately, what we have learned to up this point may be wrong information, or bad habits, and we go through life having to compensate for this.

Instead of focusing on freedom, we would do our children a big favor by focusing on self discipline, because those who have self discipline can achieving anything they set their minds too, and will ultimately be freer than those who do not learn self discipline. Those who lack self discipline will be victims of fate, instead of self determined. They will be dependent and lack self esteem. They will be run by emotion, and the opinions of others, and will not become their own authority, ruled by reason. That is, they will be like children in adult bodies, instead of mature adults.

This is very much the case in the USA today, with devastating economic and political consequences.

[CSwriter1]

There are two basic differences in child rearing I want to highlight. We can divide most societies between the overseers and the overseen. Labors are obviously among the overseen, and management and professionals are overseers. Each class rears its children differently, in general. Public education in the USA balanced this out, with excellent results, but stopped doing that, with negative results.

The overseers prepare their children to be overseers, by encouraging them to question things and to initiate things. They rarely use corporal punishment, but instead explain why something is right or wrong. They are abstract thinkers.

The overseen focus on obedience, as in the autocratic work world, or the military, a person is not to question why, but to do or die. That is, survive depends on being subordient and obedient. Questioning or taking the initiative is, insubordination and likely to be harshly punished. Punishment is the reaction to displeasing parental authority. This punishment can be both corporal or verbal abuse. They are concrete thinkers.

This has huge political and moral implications.

Those who are taught to think for themselves and taught abstract thinking, will be more liking to act on reason, while the concrete thinkers act on feeling. The abstract thinkers internalize authority, and do the right things, because they understand why it is the right thing.

The concrete thinkers, are the Fundamentalist Christians and Muslims. They interpret their holy books literally, and the morality is based on external authority, hope for reward and fear of punishment.
They don't have to be religious, and here is where a big problem comes in! Unless, authority is very powerful, because they act on feeling, instead of reason, they are apt to do the wrong thing.

Education in the US taught for good moral judgement, and prepared everyone for abstract thinking and to be civic and industrial leaders. It greatly reduced the problem of bad parenting, but that is no longer so. Since 1958 moral training has been left up to the church, and the church depends God's external authority, reward and punishment, not good reasoning. The social problems this causes, seems to prove humans are evil, and this results in destroying democracy, in favor of a police state.

[TruthSeeker]

This subject is way to big! Until about age 8 we absorb knowledge like sponges. Literally our brains change around age 8. The insulation on our brian wiring is completed, and this forms a barrier to our learning. It also results in a subconscious. From this point on we become judgemental, and aware of what we learn, and we live to prove ourselves right. Unfortunately, what we have learned to up this point may be wrong information, or bad habits, and we go through life having to compensate for this.

Instead of focusing on freedom, we would do our children a big favor by focusing on self discipline, because those who have self discipline can achieving anything they set their minds too, and will ultimately be freer than those who do not learn self discipline. Those who lack self discipline will be victims of fate, instead of self determined. They will be dependent and lack self esteem. They will be run by emotion, and the opinions of others, and will not become their own authority, ruled by reason. That is, they will be like children in adult bodies, instead of mature adults.

This is very much the case in the USA today, with devastating economic and political consequences.
I agree

[TruthSeeker]

Very good posts CSwriter1... :)

[CSwriter1]

Truthseeker, this is in response to your "exciting discovery thread.

Truthseeker, you might also want CD's like the one titled "Build Your Baby's Brain"

Obviously rhythm is important. From Socrates to modern times, there are some so stress the importance of music to the development of the brain.

Classical music is consider the best for desired brain growth, this would be Beethoven, Moart, Vivaldi, Bach.

I would protect my child from harsh modern music that is jarring on the nerves, and if were a pregnant, I would introduce my baby to the classics, while the baby is still in the womb.

I think it is very important for the primary care provider to be relaxed and content with life. The baby as you know is precieving life and recording memories.
While babies do not have words for abstract thinking, they are aware of feelings. How others around the baby feel, will effect how the baby feels, and in time the dominant feeling becomes the foundation for what a child thinks life is about.

Personally I think mothers are often the best care givers and they do their best, when their husbands make them feel safe and loved and appreciated.

[TruthSeeker]

Truthseeker, you might also want CD's like the one titled "Build Your Baby's Brain"

Obviously rhythm is important. From Socrates to modern times, there are some so stress the importance of music to the development of the brain.

Classical music is consider the best for desired brain growth, this would be Beethoven, Moart, Vivaldi, Bach.
Yes, he listens to all that... :)

I would protect my child from harsh modern music that is jarring on the nerves, and if were a pregnant, I would introduce my baby to the classics, while the baby is still in the womb.
Which modern music in particular? <_<

I think it is very important for the primary care provider to be relaxed and content with life. The baby as you know is precieving life and recording memories.
Pretty hard to be relaxed when you are a first-time parent... :o

While babies do not have words for abstract thinking, they are aware of feelings.
Have there actually been research done on that?
They may not have words, but they have concepts... <_<

How others around the baby feel, will effect how the baby feels, and in time the dominant feeling becomes the foundation for what a child thinks life is about.
Well, then everyone is doomed to become pretty stressed. I'm sure all first-time parents are quite stressed.

I don't think it is so much like that... I don't think their brains are focused on retaining memories. I remember almost nothing at all from when I was a baby. My brain was probably way to focused on things other then collecting memories...

Personally I think mothers are often the best care givers and they do their best, when their husbands make them feel safe and loved and appreciated.

I guess we are alright then :D

[buzzlightyear1982]

You could blow your money on all those high tech substitute they create to make your child smarter. But studes show that a child reacts moe to the sound of his parents voice B)